These posts were written some time ago, so I want to ask you to hold any comments about my conclusions until after you read Autism: My beliefs and ideas. That post has an updated version of what I understand and believe. Thanks.

Let’s start by saying I’m a proud dad, and I love my son very much no matter how or who he is. Second, I’ll mention the fact that my wife and I have worked very hard to help our son in any way we can. Third, my in-laws have been awesome, and supportive in every possible way. Finally, Raymond’s god parents have both been helpful every step of the way.

Okay, so I’ll begin at the beginning. Raymond was born in fall 2003. It was a rough birth, with some complications, but after examination by a NICU doctor he turned out okay. I’m not going to get into too many details, but there was shoulder dystocia, his cord was wrapped around his neck and our OB gave us a laundry list of potential problems due to the difficult birth. Things proceeded as smoothly as possible given that he was born on a full moon, so every room in the maternity ward was full. We were sent to the pediatric ward, which took all of the labor and delivery overflow. Once ensconced in our room, Raymond fed well at his mother’s breast and was an all around sleepy kid. That worked for us because we were also exhausted.

On the second day he started to look a little yellow, and the doctor put him on a bilirubin blanket due to a case of jaundice. We were initially concerned, but the nurses said it was fairly common and nothing to worry about. Still, as his bilirubin levels continued rising, we became more and more concerned. By the end of the third day Raymond was in a lighted incubator with two additional lights on him. We could not take him out except to feed or change him. This distressed both of us, as we wanted to hold and love our son. Additionally, he could not be breast fed as the doctor was concerned about a lactose intolerance. He was fed a soy formula, which I did using a hypodermic to prevent the nipple confusion which I was assured would come with bottle use. None of this made us very happy. However, we were assured that we were doing what was best for our son so we continued with the doctor’s advice.

Our release came 6 days after we initially checked in for childbirth. Raymond’s bilirubin levels were normal, he had regained his good color and was breastfeeding again. My wife had pumped while in the hospital so we already had a small extra supply of breast milk. The ride home was uneventful, albeit incredibly nerve racking for me as a new father. We got Raymond home and began raising him. He breast fed well, after a few challenges.

He progressed nicely to five months. Pediatrician checkups were okay, weight and height were normal to above average and head size was in line with other vitals. We started his vaccines, which we didn’t really want to do but were assured of their safety by our pediatrician. At five months he contracted RSV, a rather serious viral infection, and was diagnosed with child asthma. Raymond was put on a nebulizer, and we had to give him treatments every 4-6 hours. I cannot say enough how much this sucked. He was too young to understand that it would help him, but old enough to put up a really good fight. We made our way through this illness and eventually took him off of the nebulizer. However, he kept getting sick, which meant he kept going back on the nebulizer.

After the third or fourth bout with sinus infection, we asked his pediatrician what we were doing wrong. She told us then that his immune system had been weakened by the RSV and it needed some help. She recommended a supplement called Transfer Factor, which is essentially immune information distilled from cow colostrum. Now if that sounds greek to you, don’t feel alone. Colostrum is the best thing in the world, apparently. Its what mothers who breast feed give their babies through their breast milk, and it passes along information to the immune system. That information helps the child’s immune system develop and protect them from disease and infection. Apparently a cow’s makeup is similar to a human’s, so cow colostrum contains much of the same information. However, since cows are outside and sticking their heads in all kinds of messes, they have much stronger immune systems, which means they have a higher quality of information than we non farming suburbanites have in our systems.

So we put him on transfer factor and he stayed well. We were amazed, and I was so impressed I began taking it for my dust mite allergy. Lo and behold, my allergies were gone! We have kept him on transfer factor since then, and we believe it has helped his immune system grow strong. We were so impressed with it we started selling the product. You can check out our site at If you want to know more about 4life and Transfer Factor, feel free to email me.