Autism Parenting Tips: Consequences? Wednesday, Jul 25 2012 


Most folks don’t enjoy disciplining their kids. I’m not a fan of it myself, but I do feel that by failing to show my son boundaries I am setting him up for a harsh lesson later in life with much more severe penalties. Discipline is additionally challenging with an autistic child, so I’m going to share some of the things we do that help us show Raymond consequences of his decisions. 

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Autism Parenting Skills Part 5: Base expectations on facts, not conjecture Wednesday, Oct 5 2011 


We attend a lot of meetings at schools and with doctors due to our sons autism. I’ve noticed that many folks try to tell me how things will unfold for my son, or set limits on his abilities. I have a tendency to think less of people who do that, but it does seem like a somewhat common flaw to assume that expertise is the same thing as divination.

As a dad, I’m fairly skeptical when it comes to anyone limiting my son’s potential. We have been told repeatedly that he wouldn’t be able to do things, like make friends, ride a bike, hop on one foot, etc. Without fail, those folks have been wrong. It takes extra support for Raymond to learn how to do some of those things, but he manages to do them.

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Autism Parenting Skills Part 4: Bravery Wednesday, Aug 24 2011 


“Bravery is being the only one who knows you’re afraid.” – Franklin P. Jones

I have been told recently that not everyone who has an opinion has the courage to raise it, and many people do not speak up when they have something to say but instead bite their tongues. Since that idea is totally foreign to me, I thought I those folks need to know why we parents need to speak up.

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Tips for autism dads: Lower your voice Thursday, Aug 4 2011 


I’m not trying to get all high and mighty here. After all, I’ve only been an “autism dad” for 4 years or so and I certainly don’t have all the answers. However, with the help of a large number of very patient people, I have figured out a few things I’d like to pass on to other dads. The first thing I learned, and have really had to revisit here recently, is that I need to lower my voice.

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Comfort for the harder days Thursday, Jul 28 2011 


I know I tend to be upbeat, positive, maybe a little too happy, but we do have bad days as well as good days. Today it was extreme mood swings and tantrums, with some hitting, kicking, scratching, biting, etc. Days like these are emotionally exhausting, but in addition to that they are intellectually exhausting. Did I change something? Is this the wrong program? Could we be doing the wrong things? Are we asking too much or pushing too hard?

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Autism Parenting Skills Part 2: Question everything! Thursday, Feb 10 2011 


When I think about how we have learned things about autism I have to give my wife most of the credit. She asks the most pointed, detail oriented and reference specific questions I’ve ever heard. However, her questions always get us into discussions that give us more information. I learned a lot about asking questions just by listening to her, and I want to pass some of that along to you.

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Autism Parenting Skills Part 1: Determination Tuesday, Feb 8 2011 


This series is about what I have found to be essential skills, traits and abilities for surviving and thriving as an autism parent. I hope you can take something useful away from it.

I often think about what characteristics have benefited my son the most. I’m putting determination at the top of the list because I feel like it is the foundation of everything my wife and I have accomplished. I’ve also noticed that my son has that same determination to succeed, and I think maybe he learned that from us.

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How to make and use visual schedules: part 1 Thursday, Sep 16 2010 


The visual schedule is the single most important thing I can tell anyone about ever.

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